Lately I have been listening to old Nightwish songs. I used to listen to plenty of metal music in my teens and soon-ending twenties. By consequence, I stumbled on to awkward fan-made music videos featuring Nightwish songs. They give me flashbacks. I was that level of awkward, and still am.
Watching these videos, I can just see how insanely deep people are in their own heads. The music is dark and emo as fuck, and the videos show scenes from anime and shitty Final Fantasy sequels. Only someone really deep inside their shit would produce this kind of content.
What annoys me is that this is widespread. Everybody thinks with their emotions, and that they are the center of the universe. Part of this narcissistic self-centeredness is that your mind is preoccupied with thoughts of what other people think of you. Even when you know it’s stupid, you remain a slave to perceptions that make you feel naked. Or worse, you really have zero clue how other people perceive you, so you fuck around and nobody stops you.
When I did phone sales in 2015, I went into the gig filled with confidence. I even nailed the interview perfectly. But the moment I sat on the phone, anxiety choked the voice from me. Calling up random strangers, and getting rejected midway to the sales pitch again, and again, stirred up years of trauma. I kept grinding through that, sucking ass day after day. I got fired for being bad, which destroyed my confidence completely for many months. Two years after, with consistent daily practice, I’ve gotten to be a master salesman. I use my deep-ingrained insecurities to deliver the best clickbait marketing in the hentai scene. Advertising is my music.
Getting out of your head is a process. Becoming a better content creator, whether you’re doing music, writing, games, whatever, necessitates that you get out of your head. You have to switch focus from you, to how things feel for the audience. Your mind should be fixated on reading how the audience feels – they are all inside their heads, riddled with insecurities and trauma. That’s how humans are. Entertaining them, and getting their support, is possible only when you focus on their bullshit, instead of your own shit.
Focus on the customer. Only the customer matters.